Right now I’m doing really well with girls that are clearly below my Sex Rank. I’d say with my natural looks, personality, and lifestyle I’m around a 6 on the scale for men. Basically the way it works is that if a girl is right on your level, you need to use some game to get her, and the higher up she goes above you, the more game you need.
I currently have 4 girls on my radar that I would classify as 8′s. I am having a lot of trouble breaking through to a point where I can handle these girls with ease. It probably has to do with my look not backing up my cocky vibe enough yet. I really need to figure out fashion. I’m thinking of focusing more on a rocker look with an indie/hipster flare. It’s always best to embody a certain “type” because girls project all kinds of pre-existing fantasies onto you.
So I’ve written about these four girls here before. Shakira, Crystal, Olivia, and Tomboy. Here’s where I’m at now:
Shakira: She was the one I met first, last New Year’s Eve. I knew nothing about game and was still in a deep depression about my ex, but I got it together and felt kind of cocky that night. I hooked her in by seeming disinterested, and she easily agreed to have dinner with me a few days later.
We had a good date, though I bought her an expensive dinner and then drinks at the bar after. But we had a lot of fun, danced and made out on the dance floor, got some late-night fast food. It pretty much went as well as a “blue pill” (pre-game) date could have gone for me. So I got way too excited and started right back in trying to get her to hang out again. I was texting her almost every day with new ideas for plans, and she kept making excuses. Finally I had to just give up and let it rest for a few months.
Eventually I texted her and said “lets get a drink tonight” and she responded well to my direct attitude. She ended up canceling that night but she immediately offered other plans for the next night. We hung out and had another fun date, make-out at the end, but she wanted to get home and was shy about going to my place or hers.
So we hung out one more time (at her place), and I was really into escalating, even though she had just got home from yoga, felt gross, and (as I discovered with my hand) had not shaved where it counts. She quickly pulled my hand out, and yet I still tried to keep going. I forced the moment way too much instead of showing a willingness to walk away. I seemed needy and desperate, and I have not seen her since.
Basically, I never established much value with this girl. She saw from the start that I was needy, didn’t have a lot of options (whereas she presumably has tons– she’s a struggling actress in LA), and even after I returned with game, I guess I still thought of her as a prize.
After a few half-assed attempts on my part to make plans again, and half-assed excuses on her part with no counter-offer, I finally just said, “Gay.” We hadn’t been in touch since (until tonight). I’d been thinking of trying one more time, but as I’ve said before, a messy frame is very hard to overcome.
So I tried this, thinking of Paul’s “surprise” (dangling a secret) technique. I actually have a family-owned bakery that’s new in town, and if she gets back to me I’ll bring her by. I’m 2 for 2 with girls I’ve brought there before. It’s a massive DHV (display of higher value).
Dagonet: U got a free night this week? ive got something to do and i think youll like it
She didn’t respond, if she does maybe she’ll just write “gay” haha.
Olivia: I met this girl at a birthday party a few months ago, had an okay interaction and snagged the number, with barely any momentum from the interaction. I texted her a few weeks later and had to remind her who I was, but she was happy to hear from me. Lots of travel and other girls got in the way, and a month after that, I finally suggested plans. She was more than happy to hang, though she had a definite “princess” vibe, saying things like “So where are you taking me?”
Our date was fine but as I wrote about it, I played it far too safe, not leading or taking risks, and generally engaging her logical brain too much. I gave her a last-ditch peck before she left, which might have done more harm than good. At least it shows her my intent, but it also makes me look like a regular exasperated guy.
So I texted her today about movie plans (we’re both into Woody Allen) and she finally got back to me after work. It seems like she legitimately wants to hang again, she keeps working with me to figure out a day and being really upfront about her schedule.
This is good news, she’s probably the only legit prospect left in this bunch.
Crystal is the girl from the Lobsterfest text fiasco. Basically I ran a solid pickup, got her really attracted and intrigued, and then I just completely over-analyzed the text game to the point of just being not smooth at all. I waited way too long to write her back and then just sent her short, awkwardly bossy responses. She eventually just flaked, and ever since then she’s been almost impossible to get in touch with, not responding to texts.
I finally gave in and Facebooked her, hoping I could run some Krauser-style chat game. Haven’t seen her online at all yet, though.
One of the problems with Crystal, and the next girl Tomboy, is that they’re both 19. That’s also what makes them so sexy, but I can definitely tell they are immature and have tons of guys distracting them.
Tomboy is the perfect example of a scatterbrained teenager. She responds with quick one-word answers and is impossible to make plans with. Even when she seemingly wants to hang (“Do you want to hang this week?” “Yea when” “Friday night, my friends band is playing” “where” “place” …. radio silence).
The pickup wasn’t super smooth but she seemed intrigued. I probably should have made her name a date when she said “yea when” but I’ve been having mixed results. Sometimes it works better to let the girl name the night first, and sometimes it’s better for you to bring the momentum with a night/event that you can invite her to.
I texted her today to try to turn it around, but I probably back-tracked too much. I might be coming off as try-hard in some of these texts, but it’s definitely an uphill battle no matter what. At a certain point there’s no magic thing you can say, you just need to disappear for a while and show her that you’re not chasing her.
Dagonet: U missed a good show friday. lets just grab a drink this week. what night works for u
Tomboy: (radio silence)
So there you have it. I definitely notice that I’m much more careful and over-thinking everything once I decide a girl is “above” me. That’s probably what I have to get over the most, just not putting these girls on pedestals, so that I can be myself, show that I’m a man with options who understands women (all true), and increase my value in their eyes.
I also need to be cockier and tease them more. I’m so afraid of offending them that I never really attract them. I need to have an abundance mentality with beautiful women, not just women.
That’s the next step.