I’ve been taking it really easy this week, trying to get healthy. I think it was the continued stress of going out and some other things I’ve been dealing with that kept me sick so long.
It definitely spilled over into my job… I called in sick a couple times and was having trouble focusing and mustering enough energy to keep track of everything. Some assignments I was responsible for were late/wrong, and my boss had to bring me into a meeting with HR because he was getting heat for it when I wasn’t there.
I understand that he is just clearing his name because it was my responsibility, and I think ultimately he’s still watching out for me and making sure I don’t face any real backlash, but it was a stressful situation. I was angry after the meeting that this is what I get for being sick for 3 weeks. There were others who should have been covering for me that were falling down on the job.
But I handled the meeting well. I didn’t really get rattled beforehand. Hell, I thought I might be getting fired and I still walked in with a steady hand. It’s the new Dagonet in action. I answered their concerns calmly and intelligently, and I think I showed that the problem was deeper than just me, and that I had ideas about how to fix it.
My boss, the HR rep, and I all came out of the meeting feeling positive about how we would move forward. Unfortunately, this will be on record at the company now and I do feel like I’m unfairly under the microscope suddenly, but for now the issue is resolved.
I’ve been looking for my next job for about a year. I go through periods where I am more active about it, and then I get comfy and settled in. A promotion I got 2 months ago made me settle in again, but this has knocked me back into job-search mode. We’ll see what comes of it.
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And Something About Game?
I’ve been thinking a lot about what’s important in life…
Now that I’ve made women a priority in my life, I’ve definitely given up on some other short-term goals. I don’t feel like I have as much ambition, but maybe a better way to say it is that the idea of “success” is not as much of a factor for me each day.
I am definitely less stressed, but I think maybe I’ve gone too far into complacency. I feel removed from the real world. I think I need to work on balancing dates with social events with friends– and not spending those social events hitting on girls (even if I’m successful), like I have been lately.
It’s important to immerse yourself in the Game mentality when you’re first learning, but once you’ve got the hang of it, you need to balance it so it can be incorporated as one aspect of a complete life.
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Girls will sense your state.
Inner game is the most important of all.
If you don’t have your shit in order, if you don’t have your emotions in the right place, and a solid life that you feel great about to back up your interactions, you’re not going to have success.
But if you go out in a great mood, feeling ready to have fun no matter what happens– making your own fun, in fact– then you will be magnetic. And even if you don’t get a chick in the end, you’ll still have a really good night.
That’s the secret…
You’re either going to have a fun night or a bad night. But you’re the one who decides. Whether you get a number, a kiss, sex… A girl will never decide that for you.
This is something that a lot guys don’t talk about when they get into the game and it’s important to note that other parts of your life suffer when you fully immerse yourself into this. It’s a bit of a catch 22 because as you are trying to improve your life on the dating/relationship side, your work and other social parts of life falter, creating stress which in turn hurts your inner game needed to be successful at game; it’s a vicious cycle that needs to be carefully balanced.
“this is what I get for being sick for 3 weeks. There were others who should have been covering for me that were falling down on the job.”
Man up dude! No one is going to cover your shit for 3 weeks. Get real.
Yeah I’m agreeing with Matt. You were gone for 3 friggin weeks? What the heck you have? I suffered an episode of chronic bronchitis and a headcold for a bit, and I only missed 2 days of work. You gotta take your job seriously, or else suffer termination because theres always others who want your position.
You put yourself under the microscope. Start making up for it and start pulling more of your weight.
“Now that I’ve made women a priority in my life, I’ve definitely given up on some other short-term goals. I don’t feel like I have as much ambition, but maybe a better way to say it is that the idea of “success” is not as much of a factor for me each day”
–> not a good way to see things. Women are NEVER a priority, your own life is. I’d put gaming women as a hobby that falls beneath my other hobbies such as guitar-playing, gym workouts, hunting, whatever. Pussy is a fun, confidence boost. Making your life better is the main priority.
I wasn’t gone three weeks. I was sick for three weeks but I only missed 3 days of work, the rest of the time I was slogging through trying to get shit done. I got sick, started getting better (and started going out and hooking up with chicks again), and then got sick again.
The line about other people covering for me wasn’t supposed to be a huge whine or anything, it was just one thing going through my mind. If other people hadn’t fucked up too it wouldn’t have come down on me, it wasn’t about other people bailing me out. We have shared responsibilities.
And Phoenix, everything you just said is exactly the point I was making in the post. Although when you’re first learning, I do think it’s necessary to make game a priority and to devote a lot of time to it if you want to get good. Ultimately it has to just become part of a balanced life in the long run, though.
I apologize for being harsh
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