I’ve been taking it really easy this week, trying to get healthy. I think it was the continued stress of going out and some other things I’ve been dealing with that kept me sick so long.
It definitely spilled over into my job… I called in sick a couple times and was having trouble focusing and mustering enough energy to keep track of everything. Some assignments I was responsible for were late/wrong, and my boss had to bring me into a meeting with HR because he was getting heat for it when I wasn’t there.
I understand that he is just clearing his name because it was my responsibility, and I think ultimately he’s still watching out for me and making sure I don’t face any real backlash, but it was a stressful situation. I was angry after the meeting that this is what I get for being sick for 3 weeks. There were others who should have been covering for me that were falling down on the job.
But I handled the meeting well. I didn’t really get rattled beforehand. Hell, I thought I might be getting fired and I still walked in with a steady hand. It’s the new Dagonet in action. I answered their concerns calmly and intelligently, and I think I showed that the problem was deeper than just me, and that I had ideas about how to fix it.
My boss, the HR rep, and I all came out of the meeting feeling positive about how we would move forward. Unfortunately, this will be on record at the company now and I do feel like I’m unfairly under the microscope suddenly, but for now the issue is resolved.
I’ve been looking for my next job for about a year. I go through periods where I am more active about it, and then I get comfy and settled in. A promotion I got 2 months ago made me settle in again, but this has knocked me back into job-search mode. We’ll see what comes of it.
And Something About Game?
I’ve been thinking a lot about what’s important in life…
Now that I’ve made women a priority in my life, I’ve definitely given up on some other short-term goals. I don’t feel like I have as much ambition, but maybe a better way to say it is that the idea of “success” is not as much of a factor for me each day.
I am definitely less stressed, but I think maybe I’ve gone too far into complacency. I feel removed from the real world. I think I need to work on balancing dates with social events with friends– and not spending those social events hitting on girls (even if I’m successful), like I have been lately.
It’s important to immerse yourself in the Game mentality when you’re first learning, but once you’ve got the hang of it, you need to balance it so it can be incorporated as one aspect of a complete life.
Girls will sense your state.
Inner game is the most important of all.
If you don’t have your shit in order, if you don’t have your emotions in the right place, and a solid life that you feel great about to back up your interactions, you’re not going to have success.
But if you go out in a great mood, feeling ready to have fun no matter what happens– making your own fun, in fact– then you will be magnetic. And even if you don’t get a chick in the end, you’ll still have a really good night.
That’s the secret…
You’re either going to have a fun night or a bad night. But you’re the one who decides. Whether you get a number, a kiss, sex… A girl will never decide that for you.