Despite the epic bitch session that constituted my last post, things are alive and well in my world. I wish I had more time to blog; I have a back log of a bunch of good topics to write about when I get a chance.
I should definitely recap the events of tonight, though.
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After hearing about a meetup/mixer for LA dating bloggers, I decided to risk my anonymity and venture out to it. I figured it would be entertaining to see people’s reactions to my blog– since it’s so outside the mainstream dating blogger’s worldview– but also to meet some fellow bloggers, have a good discussion and talk about our craft.
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It ended up being just 4 girls, the male host, and myself. There was Miss Melissa Mae, Bad Online Dates, Dirty In Public, and Single Tease. Plus our male host, The Urban Dater.
The girls all seemed excited to have me there, and I was able to explain the premise of my blog without completely alienating them. I think they were kind of impressed that I had the balls to show up and talk about it. The bartender asked me what I blog about and I said, “Having sex with chicks.” He gave me a fist-bump, and we talked for a few minutes.
Eventually we got into a spirited debate about men and women, and I wasn’t about to hold back. I was there as the ultimate, complete version of myself: Dagonet and **** both in plain sight, using all sides of my knowledge, opinion and experience.
The girls seemed shocked when I started explaining how it’s a masculine quality for women to have career ambition, and that men are not sexually attracted to it. I was calm and fair the whole time, inviting a discussion and clearly explaining my thought process.
However, Jennifer (of Bad Online Dates) apparently couldn’t handle some simple, non-judgmental truths about men and women. She angrily stood up as I was talking and said, “Women are evolved farther beyond the cave than men. I can’t listen to this anymore, I’ve written books on these topics, and you are completely wrong.”
She then turned and stormed out into the night. I shrugged it off and explained to the remaining members of our party that there is no inherent morality in the characteristics of the sexes; men and women each have their traits, and it is a fallacy to say one is “better” than the other. Swoon
After that, I got into a deeper conversation with Single Tease. We covered a lot of topics, and I began introducing some of the Manosphere’s lingo and worldview to her. She said it seemed like a cult because I kept speaking in terms of “we” (the Manosphere).
She decided to leave around 11 and asked me to walk her to her car. I could tell that she had been attracted to my confidence, and my mastery with the subject matter at hand. We joked around as we walked down the block to her car. “I will admit…” she said. “You’ve got games.”
“We don’t pluralize it,” I said.
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We got to her car and talked a moment longer. Then she said, “I’m going to kiss you now.”
“Uh… okay.”
Gotta love blogger chicks.
We made out for a minute, and then we said goodbye. Earlier she had given me one of her site’s pick-up cards, which you can use as an icebreaker to hand someone. It says “This is a pickup” and you can write your name and number on it. I had filled it out before and was going to try it out on a stranger at the bar, but I hadn’t gotten around to it yet. Appropriately, I just gave Single Tease her own company’s card with my info already filled in. I had even checked off “I met you in (a bar).”
About one minute later she texted me: “Hot. I’ll give you that. Nice meeting you.”
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I went back inside and chilled with Melissa Mae and Dirty In Public. We joked about having a threesome, and then me and Dirty cuddled a bit when MM was in the bathroom. Overall it just got too late and the momentum of the evening faded away. After we had talked a while longer, we finally said our goodbyes.
As I drove home, I realized that I had gotten 3 free beers and had forgotten to pay for the food I ordered.
Pretty good night, overall.
I like being Dagonet in public. I think I’ll talk more about blogging when I’m out meeting people in the future. It just feels like I’m more……
Me.
Just surfed over to Bad Online Dates and left a comment on Jen’s blog. Imagine someone whose life’s work is documenting the shortcomings of other people’s dating lives.
Her latest post tells a guy that he’s shallow for being turned off by his girlfriend’s peripatetic shaving habits, and should shut up because AwesomeFabulousSingle Women have soooo many more important things to do than regular grooming, and anyway guys have stubble so they have no place to complain (false equivalence much?) And she drops the totally-bogus 75-cents-on-the-dollar wage gap statistic. She’s just an idiot with a flair for writing.
For the record I was miss quoted. And please take a closer look at the BOD site — as the CEO and fonder of the Badonlinedates.com site and community some 4 years later — I do what I do, and work very hard each and every day to provide hope and laughter.
Thanks for stopping by, but you can’t go “on the record” unless you’re going to tell us what you really said.
Hope and laughter? Right. And Alyssa Bereznak was writing to warn women about online dating and not get vindictive kicks in..
… and I am mister quoted.
Huge shout out to you for having the balls to shed your anonymity to come out and meet up! As we talked about, many bloggers talk a good game behind their computer screen but have a hard time stepping up to the plate in the real world. Everyone who showed up deserves props. It was great to meet you in the flesh and your anonymity is safe with me.
p.s. Blogger chicks rock!
p.s.s. Thanks for the snuggle ;P
Must be easy to talk about every detail when you are writing with a pen name. But yes. I did find you attractive because of your confidence and that you were able to stay “present” in our conversation. Eye contact is key. You realize you did kiss a career woman. Quite intensely i might add. : )
This thread has become quite voyeuristic for me…
“You realize you did kiss a career woman. Quite intensely i might add. : )”
With all due respect, I don’t understand why this career thing is so difficult for women to understand. A woman’s career achievement is, generally speaking, not sexually attractive to men. That doesn’t mean it isn’t interesting, or that men won’t judge it positively when seeking a mate. Many guys don’t want to marry a stay-at-home mom type, they want a woman who has some of her own thing going on. But having your own thing, while it helps in relationship compatibility with some guys, is not going to get your man hot and bothered.
It’s like salt and sugar. You can’t sweeten your tea by adding salt, and you can’t salt your eggs by adding sugar. They’re two useful condiments for different purposes.
I have to agree. +1
The bloggers in my area don’t care too much for me in the online world… in real life, that’s another story… Good stuff Dagonet.
Yeah buddy. For all I know, there isn’t a single dating blogger within 200 miles of me, better start looking…
niceness, never met bloggers met gameguys and the experince has been “so-so” some guys were cool as hell and some where downright creepy
ahhhh back in the day when hooking up with fellow blogger chicks was awesome. They’re probably way hotter than in DC. Quick advice from someone who used to do it and between Roosh and I ran through 85% of the blogger chicks in DC. If you hook up with one don’t link or even write about it till it’s over. Things can get very messy
Just wanted to show some support and add to the comments. I lurk here every few weeks or so and catch up. Nice foundation you’re building here.
Her: “I’m going to kiss you now”
Me: “Make it good”